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Lapsed anthropologist-turned-burlesque performer and post-modern punk housewife/homesteader living in the beautiful Pacific Northwest with a hunky husband, gorgeous daughter, adorable corgi, fluffy rabbit, and three clucking fabulous chickens.

Monday, May 21, 2012

Comparison is the Thief of Joy

It seems to be a common theme, currently. We all feel we just aren't "x" enough. Right now, I'm feeling not smart/thin/crafty/energetic enough, and my chronic fatigue/vitamin D deficiency/hypothyroidism tripple-whammy certainly isn't doing me any favors.

Also not doing me any favors? Pinterest. Just heaps and heaps of pictures of people who are better at being the person I want to be than I am. Don't get me wrong, I love Pinterest. It's an amazing resource for inspiration. But everyone's online lives are so perfect, so incredible, so edited. In that vein, here are some of my failures:

The seedlings we started in the basement in early April? They're still there. Some have been transplanted into 4" pots, but their now threatening to burst out of those, too. The raised bed garden construction has been halted due to lack of funds, which is a direct result of my upcoming wedding.

Speaking of that, who had to turn nearly complete control of said wedding over to her mother to avoid a nervous breakdown/burnout? This blogger. My mother has taken the theme and run with it, and I am super super grateful, but a little bummed at not handmaking every detail of my big day. And I still have a whole heap of projects on my own plate, which are in no danger of getting finished anytime soon. I already resorted to purchasing my wedding dress, reception dress, and petticoat, instead of sewing them myself as I always said I'd have done. And I might, horror of horrors, have to purchase the cake.

Despite actually trying to lose the 60 extra pounds I've been carrying around these past few years, I've only managed to take off 10 and keep it off. I go to the gym, I eat well, it's just not working. And being obese plus having chronic fatigue syndrome? People pretty much just assume you're a lazy glutton, never mind that I'm getting up at 5:30am to go to the gym and then study, and eat a vegetarian, whole-food diet. My body just refuses to work the way it's supposed to. It takes all I have to just get dressed in the morning, forget make up or doing anything with my hair, which pretty much leaves me feeling like a shlub.

I'm going to fail Anatomy and Physiology 2. There's just no way around it. I have a big test tomorrow, that I've studied hours for and will continue to study, but with everything that is going on, I just can't seem to retain any information. This is the first time in my life I have ever felt like this, and a huge disappointment in myself. If there's ever been one thing I've always been rock solid in, it's my academic performance. I'm so embarrassed I can't even look my professor in the eye.

So of course I feel bad about myself, because I think I should be able to keep on top of all of these things. I want to be the awesome urban homesteading wife who kicks ass at school and looks polished and pretty all the time and makes creative and delicious meals every day. I feel like I don't measure up to my idols over at Apron Stringz or Northwest Edible Life, even though they've both done posts about the disparity between what we aspire to and what we actually achieve. It's a lifelong struggle, I think, to disentangle our feelings of self-worth from what we perceive everyone else is doing better than us. I'm just trying to keep things in perspective.

If I fail my class, I'll have to pay back the government for it, and I'll pay out of pocket to take it again in the fall. It will suck, but it will not be the end of the world. Likewise I just have to let go of any self-imposed deadlines for losing the weight, and just keep at it, even if it means only losing a pound a month. Baby steps. And I have to stop looking at everything like it's a contest. It's okay if someone else has perfect hair everyday, or a much nicer garden, or makes their own bread all the time. That doesn't devalue my pot of mint, or my once-a-week awesome homemade meal, or managing to pull together something that looks like a thought-out ensemble once in a while.

Thursday, May 10, 2012

Wedding Daze

Wow, we're less than a month away from the wedding. So little to do, so much time. Wait...scratch that, reverse it.

I've been getting exciting packages in the mail all. the. time. Like these awesome flasks I had made for my bridesmaids and myself by Whimsy and Ink on etsy.

So much fun! Awesome photos await us.

And my reception dress(because I'm planning on only getting married once so I may as well have fun with it) by Betsey Johnson.

I heart the ruffles. I'm going to feel like Kaylee in "Shindig".

I've been making some progress on my bouquet, as well. I actually purchased the watercolors I need to paint my coffee filter roses, and I started putting the brooches on floral wire. This is going to be a blingtastic bouquet!

 Seriously, though, it's going to weigh like ten pounds.

The lace for my wedding dress arrived, as well, so fitting the dress and adding the lace overlay is next on my list. Thankfully the weekend before the wedding is a four-day weekend for both Mr. Bear and myself, so that'll be our crunch weekend to get everything done that still needs to be. Mr. bear impressed the hell out of me the other day by writing his own photobooth program for the reception. So...that's done, then.

I've been trying not to get too overwhelmed with everything, and take some time to enjoy the gorgeous spring while it's here. In that vein, here are some shots of our gorgeous blooming front yard, where I managed to not kill all the bulbs.

I'm doing a test run on cake this weekend for Mother's Day. I shall post my triumph(or failure) for you all to see next week.

Thursday, May 3, 2012

Taking the plunge

So...I've been toying with the idea of an etsy shop for a very long time, now. And, well, I finally did it. I made some cute reversible cowls out of old sweaters, had a lovely friend model them for me, and listed a whopping three whole items in my modest little shop. Take a gander:

Earlier this week, I sold a reversible striped/blue cotton cowl! Granted, it was to a friend of mine, but it's still a sale! I have some other things in the works for the shop, once I have a moment to catch my breath(the wedding is exactly one month from today! Eeek!), and I think it's the kind of thing I'll slowly build up over the following months. Still, it's kind of terrifying to put yourself out there like that...

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